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I am writing this article because people are experiencing so much sadness, overwhelm and distress about the current events in Japan and other countries affected by natural and manmade disasters. It is my intention to offer a different perspective to facilitate greater awareness, insight and understanding of why things are happening.

There is no reason to be fearful about the current events or what is about to happen because this will only lower the collective vibrational energy on the planet, which will aid those that seek to destroy so much of humanity.

A friend of mine from Christchurch was contemplating why he was so lucky and still alive after the recent earthquake in Christchurch and wondered how he could express his gratitude and make a difference with his life, which must have been spared for a reason.

Friends of mine in Japan were able to fly to England physically unaffected by the recent disasters in Japan. They perceived themselves as extremely lucky, giving thanks to everyone who had prayed for them. Yet it is not those prayers that assured their safe landing in England. Let me explain what I mean.

If we can shift our perspective to our higher self, we can understand that our soul has chosen to incarnate during these times to experience the vast devastation and the precursors of 2012 and beyond.

We are the ones that we have been waiting, we are the saviours. We are powerful, creative, spiritual beings incarnated at this time on this planet Earth to experience the current events and the changes to come. Why are some spared and praise God with gratitude for their saving and others curse God for their loss? It has nothing to do with savings or loss, because from a higher perspective we have all chosen our life lessons and our destiny before we incarnated. So whatever disasters have happen to us have been decided and no amount of prayer at the lower level of consciousness can change this.

How does this fit in with free will? I was given the image of a CD Rom game. The whole game with all the levels and characters and rules of interaction and its millions of possibilities and outcomes is already created by us before birth. During our life it is the second by second decisions we make that determine the path we follow and ultimately the outcome. Some people are good players, others are not so good. What if you loose the game? What do you normally do? You start all over. You simply incarnate again and have another go. My friends had a choice to stay in Japan or to leave. Their higher selves had chosen to create a support network around them – both in terms of emotional support and financial ability - that would share insights and help them to make the decision to leave. Their next choice is to decide whether or not to return to Japan. Once again, they have chosen to be surrounded by people who can help them make that choice. How they respond to those people and their advice is up to them.

This CD Rom game analogy explains perfectly how fate, destiny and free will can and in fact do all exist at the same time. So what I am saying is that there is no luck and we really create our own destiny – in part before birth: which major events we choose to experience – and then through our moment to moment decisions in response to those events.

Now because there is no luck and because we are the creators of our destiny, what do you think this means in relation to prayers?

I’m going to write something, which may appear controversial, especially coming from the daughter of a late priest who was brought up and conditioned to believe in the power of prayer. Many of you may initially disagree with me for what I am about to write may challenge the very core of your religious and spiritual beliefs. I invite you to try on the proposed concept even if it goes against everything you have been ‘taught’ and have chosen to believe as a result.

All prayers create separation, disempowerment and are fear based. Why? Prayers are disempowering because by praying to an external source you create separation and deny the fact that We Are All One.  If we are all one then we are God, then we are the Creator creating our own reality. So by praying to an external Source you deny yourself of any power to influence and shape your life, because you think life happens to you. We are the Creator and much has been written about this and the Law of Attraction.

Many people are aware of this notion, have read it somewhere and understand it on some level but do not follow its logic through to the end because it goes against the indoctrination of the religion that has externalised God to find a way to control the masses with fear. The other reason it can’t be followed through is because the Law of Attraction is not the complete picture. For a law to be a law, it must be reproducible and happen one hundred percent of the time, which does not account for people who are peaceful yet have violence enacted on them. Therefore, the Law of Attraction is not a law, more of an optional sub-clause of a true law: the Law of Manifestation.

Prayers are fear based because most of the time people pray for something they don’t have or fear they might loose: such as peace, safety or money. This type of prayer does not allow the possibility of the higher self creating conflicts for the purpose of awakening and learning and of presenting people with the necessary challenges they need to grow. Since prayers are out of fear or a feeling of lack, this is what they attract more of. The only exception are prayers of gratitude which express a state of being.

I read an article this morning by a Law of Attraction Marketing Expert, who is experiencing the conflict between prayer and the Laws of Attraction. She knows that we create our reality not by what we do but by what we think and feel. As you know, our thoughts and feelings carry a certain vibrational frequency, which in turn attracts events and people into our life who vibrate on that same frequency. Many people have manifested their fears instead of the outcome they desired. This means that being devastated by the many earthquakes, tsunamis and nuclear threats will increase their frequency and worsen their effect, because our fears will create many more events resonating with that low fear vibration.

Now the Law of Attraction Expert was stuck between her conditioned belief about prayers and her knowledge of the Law of Attraction and she tried to resolve this conflict as follows:

“Prayer, as I see it, is a surrender to the divine in us, an acknowledgment that our individual willpower is not enough and we need to open to a greater power – to our Source.” This statement is written from the lower, human perspective, which can be limiting because once you remember that you are the divine, there is no need to surrender to it, for why would you surrender to yourself? Creating a divine within, implicitly creates a divine without and thus not only creates separation between your higher and your human self, but also between you and the world. Simply connect to your divine and know that this is who you really are.

Our individual will power is never enough, because we cannot ‘will’ things into being and because it would superimpose on the free will of others. We can only be at a certain frequency and then attract events to us that are in alignment with that frequency. It is a simple matter of cause and effect. We cannot ‘will’ ourselves to change our frequency, but we can let go of our fears and enter into a state of love thereby instigating a shift.

The problem is that people see themselves as either here or there whilst the reality is that you are everything. So if they want to shift their frequency they create separation. When you understand that you are All That Is – like a beam of white light understands that it is all colours simultaneously – you don’t have to shift anything, you can just focus on a different aspect. If you want to vibrate at the lower end of the spectrum, i.e. be red, you filter out all others. If you want to vibrate at the higher end of the spectrum you filter out the lower end and become purple. But when you understand that you are All, you shine as white light. It is not about raising your vibrational energy at all, it is about embracing all frequencies, otherwise you deny parts of who you are.

Will power seems to imply that if we want something strong enough and push over enough hurdles, then it will come to us. But this is not the case. When I tried to make it as a theatre director in London all those years ago, I was doing a lot of things, willing my career into being. But all the universe responded to was my fear of not surviving, my fear of not being good enough and my fear of getting bad reviews. The Law of Manifestation manifests whatever is in alignment with the energy behind the intent of becoming successful, in my case it was fear. If the Law of Attraction was true, my internal state prevented me from attracting the opportunities I desired. However, once we shift to higher self perspective: my higher self blocked me from being successful on a pathway I was not meant go on and opened another pathway that was in alignment with my higher purpose.

At that time, I was not ready to let go of my fears nor did I know how. So will is never enough, it is not what creates our emotional state. Opening up to our Source, to our Higher Self, to the infinite love that we are will mean that we can tap into the abundance of this universe and can see the ‘devastating’ events from that higher perspective with the understanding that a) they are created by the collective consciousness in its infinite wisdom and b) they are challenges to awaken people to who they truly are, blessings in disguise creating opportunities for change and growth. It is only in times of crisis that we can truly see what we are made of, which reminds me of the Chinese sign for crisis. It consists of two symbols: danger and opportunity leading to the saying: every crisis is an opportunity in disguise.

All creation must come from a changing of the status quo. To create anew the existing must be deconstructed. Only through the changing of the old can the new emerge, which means the old seizes to exist. Some would view that as destruction. But from a higher perspective we understand that there is no destruction, only recycling and recombining to form higher states.

‘What about the studies that show the successful results of prayers?’ I hear you ask. The fact that some prayers come true and are so called answered doesn’t take into account the millions of prayers that are not. This means that we can conclude that prayers in themselves are not the reason for something to happen.

Take the cancer patient for example. So many people with cancer die despite their prayers to God and their family and friends’ prayers to God because the prayers themselves unconsciously express their fear of death. Praying for anyone else imposes on their free will and the desires of their higher self. Even if you have been asked to pray for someone, them getting what they’ve asked for because of your prayer would affect another person.

Furthermore, if the answer of prayers was to be left up to an external God, we would not have free will. But we are free to change our thoughts and feelings by letting go of fear. Let me repeat: manifestation is a simple matter of cause and effect: whatever we desire is out there but if our personal radio is tuned into a certain frequency, that station is not only all we can listen to but all we can broadcast. We have to change the station to a higher frequency first before we can receive whatever that frequency has to offer. As we sow, so shall we reap. Ultimately, we tune into all channels at the same time and we broadcast on all frequencies, because this is All That Is.

Some events happen because of the course of the universe. The moon will wax and wane, the tide responds through ebb and flow, these are event that happen, where you choose to be when they happen and how you choose to respond is up to you.

Whether you are killed in an earthquake or survive, comes down to your individual CD Rom game and your frequency at the time. Do you take a sicky that day a plane flies into the World Trade Centre? Do you leave your passport at home and miss your plane that subsequently crashes killing all on board? Are you found alive in the gravel nine days after the tsunami hit?

We are entering into a time with major shifts on the planet. This has been set in stone eons ago and the Mayan’s and other cultures have written about 2012. How 2012 and its precursors are going to play out was not set in stone because it is a response to the collective consciousness of humans on the planet right now. This means that the severity of earthquakes and the extent of the devastation is created in response to the collective consciousness and its frequency.

Your individual consciousness and frequency determines where you are when these disasters happen and how they will affect you. It has nothing to do with luck, just cause and effect. The more you pray to avoid disaster, the more you put energy into the duality that creates it in the first place.

We are the ones that we have been waiting for. There is no external saviour. We are it. We are all incarnated in this life right now! So the best thing we can do in these times is to shift our perspective to our higher self where we know that we have chose to experience whatever is happening. If enough people learn to live without fear, connected to their hearts and in a state of love for themselves, other people and the planet, then we will be able to create the best antidote to all the disasters. So each and every one of us can affect the change. Prayers can’t, love and gratitude can. So choose love, compassion and gratitude. As Wayne Dwyer points out, the good news is that those with high vibrational energy can balance out those who carry lower frequencies. A fully awakened being like Mother Theresa can counteract the low vibration of about one hundred thousand people. So what can you do to make a difference? Be happy. Be in a state of love. Get out of your head and into your heart and just be.

Goddess is a very misunderstood concept that has been given many meanings. There is of course the ancient, mythological meaning that we all have a clear understanding of. But when it comes to the role of the Goddess in modern times, let alone women embodying and becoming Goddesses, the term is often misused. Some speak of the ‘Goddess of Marketing’ or the ‘Entrepreneurial Goddesses’ when paying a woman a compliment on her professional expertise. Others use the term when referring to feminine leadership. So is Goddess just an ancient figure? Is the term referring to professional excellence? Or does it refer to an inherent sacred feminine essence that transgresses time and space? And why has the term gained popularity in recent times? Clearly it is time to move humanity from a dominantly fear based mindset to a purely love based state of being.

The Power of Fear

Fear is the foundation of our society and has been used for millennia to control humans. If people are living in fear of punishment they will do anything those in power desire: pay taxes, parking fines and have vaccinations. Fear is a masculine principal that became necessary when some wanted to impose their will on others, when comparison, competition and thus the need to control came into play.

Love is a feminine principal based on acceptance, inclusion and collaboration. It means that everyone is equal but different, everyone is empowered, no one is kept at bay and everyone can be the best they can be without stepping on someone else’s toes or being a threat, because there is no comparison and everyone is accepted just the way they are.

Can you imagine a society like that? How much easier it would be? There would be no emotional wreckages, no depression, no insecurities; just fully self-realised individuals.

Goddess in Ancient Times

This is how society was a very long time ago, such as in the times of ancient Egypt. It was a time when we lived in communities not nuclear families. Children were able to stay with their mothers and this strong bond gave security and safety, creating a strong foundation for emotionally healthy, secure individuals. Women knew how to harvest natural remedies to cure and prevent ailments. Women were revered for their mystical power, their wisdom, intuition and connection to Mother Earth.

Everyone lived in harmony with nature. There was a natural exchange, not the reckless, selfish, ignorant taking that has brought the planet to where it is today.

The harmonious relationship between men and nature was further reflected in the rhythmical female cycle that fell on the Full Moon when women retreated into the temples to honour themselves during this time of letting go and renewal.

Rites of passage into womanhood were celebrated in the temples where the girls were initiated into sexual practices by the priestesses and shown how to pleasure themselves as part of knowing who they are as fully empowered sexual and creative beings. There was no humiliation, no guilt, no shame, no accidental coercion into sexuality, but conscious empowered practice.  People were strong and healthy, living in harmony with each other and nature.

Bringing the Ancient into the Present

It is time now to bring harmony and love fully back to the planet. This change needs to be initiated firstly by women, through tapping into their flowing, creative, loving, sacred feminine essence and pure power, tapping into their Goddess self. Men cannot activate and remember this part of themselves until the women in their life do so first. We are the mirrors, and for too long have not just mirrored masculine energies, we have absorbed and enacted them. So we have a responsibility to show them the way, not from within the masculine principals of abusive power but from love and truth.

Men cannot become whole as fully empowered beings until women embrace Goddess. For each human has the masculine feminine dynamic inherent in their nature, like Yin and Yang. Women have more than learnt to awaken and embody their masculinity. We have been conditioned to believe it is the only way we have been able to survive in this patriarchal world that has existed for thousands of years.

It happened in early Egyptian times when the power was taken away from the priestesses and may have even began in Sumerian times before that. Can you imagine a time when women once ruled the planet? It did exist, and there was no hunger and no war.

Since then self-realised woman who embodied Goddess were persecuted and killed, called witches, whores, or possessed by the devil.

A Forged Attempt at Equality

In the 1960, the rise of feminism and emancipation gave women back their voice, but it was not their authentic feminine voice, it was their masculine voice. Their feminine voice was still suppressed to such an extent that even the women had forgotten what it sounded like. After generations and generations of suppression and annihilation women believed that by being emancipated and receiving equal rights to work and vote meant that they were now equal; equal to men, by being treated the same as men.

Instead of equality, all they got was the right to express their masculinity even more, fighting men on male ground and wondering why it was that men still got most of the higher positions, why it was still men who cut women off in meetings and discussions and why women had to work three times as hard to be perceived equal to men. That is not equality. That is becoming dominant in an area we are not naturally dominant and then wondering why it is such a struggle.

From a different perspective, women have simply been further lured away from their natural strength and from their own nature. They became like men disguised in women’s dress, wondering why they could never be as good, or rarely be as good as men and, if they were, this success came with a huge sacrifice to their family and often their health – the secretly stressed out superwoman, killing herself trying to be everything to everyone. Sound familiar?

Right now, we have more power than we’ve ever had in modern history. But the power we have been granted is masculine power. This is why many women still feel disempowered victims to the ideal of the super woman: being everything to every one, yet feeling a certain emptiness inside.

Our lives don’t seem authentic to us, it’s as though we are playing a role and by now you will understand why. We are not living to our true purpose.

All women had done was to activate their masculinity even more at the cost of shutting their feminine intuition away and with it all those qualities that belonged to the sacred feminine. If you are wondering what they are, then you are truly conditioned by the patriarchal society and exactly where those in power want you to be.

Remember the witch hunts in the middle ages? Men were afraid of the mystical powers of the sacred mother, the feminine intuition and did all that was in their power to shut it up. In the Middle Ages this was done through murder and witch hunts, in the twentieth century this was done through distraction: giving women equal rights to men and thus luring them away from remembering who they truly are.

Governments and those in power knew that woman could never be equal. It’s like asking a qualified concert pianist to work in the marketing department of a large firm getting the same results as a fully qualified marketing director with many years of experience. Both have different skills sets that are not fully transferable.

I know that this statement will meet some disagreement from those who believe in gender blindness and think that there is no inherent difference between men and women and that there are only personal differences that have nothing to do with gender. If that’s you, I don’t blame you. Our society shows men who portray more female qualities and women who are more analytical than some men. Yet, that’s exactly all part of the conditioning and all part of the grand plan.

The Illuminati – the powers at work – planned the feminist movement very carefully. It came from the world powers not from women. It came from patriarchy but was made to look as if it was the liberation of women from within the women’s movement.

But why would they help women to gain power, if they are afraid of woman’s power? There are three very simple reasons:

1. They gave women masculine power, taking them further away from their true nature through distraction. Thus disempowering feminine power.

2. By getting women into the workplace, they doubled the amount of taxes that was paid and thus created a further income avenue for themselves.

3. By getting women into the workplace, they took them away from their children. This meant that children had to be put into day care centres and Kindergardens. The earlier children are taken away from their mothers, the more they are vulnerable to the influences of those in whose care they are, who in turn had to have an education to teach those children whatever those in power wanted them to believe. Taking children away from their mothers at an early age goes against natural instincts. It robs children of the sense of security they have when they are allowed to stay with their mothers until they are ready to move on. It makes them feel abandoned and the insecurity arising from that is used to increase their fears. Children who are afraid and have no strong sense of self-worth will do anything they can to be liked. Citizens like this can be controlled into doing whatever the government wants them to do. By taking children away at an early age the Illuminati brainwash and condition the society into fear and stop them from thinking for themselves.

The Tide is Turning

There are so many misconceptions about what Goddess is, and society has forgotten, much to the delight of those in power. But now is the time to remember! It is time to remember who we are and once again walk in the footpaths of our ancestor: powerful women, who were deeply connected to Mother Earth. The tide is turning and it is time that thousands of years of masculine ruling are now to be reversed into a matriarchal society. This is why more and more women get a calling to gather together and support one another. In the business community more and more events and organizations are created that are just there for women: Business Chicks, Women’s business Groups, Women’s Network Australia, Women in Finance… the list goes on. There are equally many, if not more, organizations for women in the spiritual and personal development arena: Feminine Power and Women on the Edge of Evolution to name but two.

What Would a Matriarchal Society Look Like?

Firstly it would be a world without war, for no mother sends her son off to war to be killed. Secondly, no child would ever die of thirst or starvation; there is abundance to go around and a matriarchal society would ensure it does. It would mean living in a society without fear, greed, anxiety, anger, aggression, competition and control. Women in their natural state are true collaborators. So instead of competition, there would be collaboration.

Some would say that we need rules and laws and that a society without it would go haywire. Yes a society that has forgotten their goddess self would indeed go haywire and end in anarchy, as we are beginning to see, because the masculine structures are breaking down. It’s just that the feminine hasn’t fully taken over and many Goddess movements are still mistakenly following masculine principals.

The Essence of Goddess

Goddess has been widely misunderstood as some airy-fairy, fluffly-duffy, touchy-feely weak, female thing. This is far from the truth. If we look back in history at the ancient Goddesses, look how powerful they were: Isis, Aphrodite, Diana… they were revered for their strength, compassion, truth, beauty and wisdom. It is those who should be our role models, not the celebrity divas or corporate ‘superwomen’ who follow masculine principals.

Goddess does not strive for equality in a man’s world.  She stands her own ground and is equal in the sense that she is strong in her feminine power, in her creative flow, without anything to hide, anything to prove or anything to achieve.  She just IS: pure strength, pure love, pure wisdom. Those who have shed all their fears cannot be controlled, for they cannot be manipulated or threatened by anything, it has no impact on them. This is true Goddess energy, true Goddess empowerment. Goddess has no fear. She is strong. This is why men either revere and honour them or fear them, depending on their own internal harmony or disharmony.

Goddess is about sharing, being and flowing.  The world that Goddess will create requires no systems or structures. Money will cease to exist and exchanges, or what we call bartering, will become the norm. We will remember the abundant nature of the universe, for Goddess works in harmony with all things, she is inclusive and gives freely because she truly understands the concept: as you sow so shall you reap and if there is no fear, lack cannot be manifested. The illusion of scarcity that has been employed for centuries will be overthrown. Goddess lives in harmony with the natural ebb and flow of life and embraces all circles of life.

Who is Your Inner Goddess?

Living in full Goddess empowerment means to live with an open heart in a state of love, for love is our true state of being. It means embracing, accepting and surrendering to the flow of life. It means truly nurturing and loving yourself as who you are in an unconditional state of love, no matter what. It means sharing, giving, creating. It means letting go of all fear and speaking your truth from a place of love, strength and compassion, unafraid of the consequences. Living in Goddess Self means to connect with Self and Source at core level.

If you feel a sense of frustration with your life as it is now, and get the sense that you are on this planet for more than this… or to be more correct: there is something else eating at you other than what you have at this stage, then you are on the verge of shifting into a huge wave of awakening. This does not always come in the way you may expect. In fact, from my experience, it rarely does. It is far from being a blissful experience and more likely a shattering stripping away of what is holding you back and a challenging confrontation of what you need to let go of. Fear based masculine principals often need to be shocked out of the system. Often the very thing you are asked to let go of is the very thing that has given you a sense of false security or even your identity. For me it was my business and many friends that were not ready to shift. If you have been resisting your inner calling, if fears have held you back from doing what you knew was the right thing, but it seemed so crazy that you pushed it away, your deeper awakening will most likely show up in the form of a crisis. The Chinese symbol for crisis is twofold: danger and opportunity. The change into Goddess will appear dangerous from the ‘rational view’ that is locked into societal conditioning. Your Higher Self will rejoice and see the opportunity in the crisis, in fact it has created this opportunity for you. So it’s a question of choice: are you going to look at the situation from a fear based perspective or from your Higher Self / Goddess perspective. The latter may appear crazy but is the path of least resistance.

The parachute image springs to mind: it only opens after you have jumped out of the plane not before. We must learn to become comfortable with the uncertainty of not being aware and to listen out for the voice of deeper knowing. Returning to Goddess and rebirthing her again in today’s world means to let go of all fears, to allow our heart to make decisions and our mind to figure out how to realize the details of the hearts desires, not to run the show, or project failure or disaster.

I trust that this article has given you a greater understanding of the inner Goddess in all of us, and why it is so important to embrace, remember and rebirth her so as to create a healthy, holistic society, where the masculine and feminine Yin and Yang are in harmony and flow, and where love presides over all fear-based emotions and actions.

Whilst all I have been able to do here is touch the surface of the role of the Goddess, but it may have triggered something within you that you may wish to explore further.

About the Author:

Krystal Alexander-Hille (formerly known as Christiane Hille) is a qualified Life- and Goddess Coach based in Victoria. She runs regular Goddess Circles and Goddess Rebirthing Retreats and is the author of ‘The Circle of Aphrodite’ and ‘Birthing – The Role of the Goddess’. You can contact her via her website: www.inspiredcoaching.com.au

“We all dream a lot - some are lucky, some are not.  But if you think it, want it, dream it, then it’s real. You are what you feel.” Tim Rice

There are some people who are seemingly always lucky and successful even when the world is going through gloom and doom and then there are others who are befallen by bad luck, even when the economy is booming.  In our current climate you can’t afford not to know and apply the formula for luck and success.

So what is the recipe for luck?
Studies by Richard Wiseman show that people miss opportunities when they don’t expect to find them.

1.    Lucky people have a wide network of friend, which maximises their chances and opportunities because they tell everyone about their goals and people love to help passionate people.
2.    Lucky people expect to be lucky.
3.    Lucky people know what they want, have clear goals and look for success and luck in unexpected places and all the time.
4.    Lucky people find opportunity in adversity, which makes them more resourceful in dealing with it: “When life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.” – “When you have a car accident, the other driver you meet might present you with your next big business opportunity.”
5.    Lucky people have flexibility, adaptability and can change outgrown attitudes and behaviour in new circumstances.
6.    Lucky people are relaxed, they live in the Now and follow their intuition.
7.    Lucky people are fast acting when opportunities present themselves and can change their current direction for a better one easily.

“Luck affects everything; let your hook always be cast; in the stream where you least expect it, there will be a fish.” Ovid, Roman Poet

•    What do you need to let go of to follow the recipe for luck?
•    Do your current beliefs about yourself serve you to become more successful?
•    What do you need to do, think or feel more often to make luck a reality for you?

“Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task.”
William James

What are the four characteristics of a great procrastinator?

1.    Procrastinators are highly optimistic that they are going to get everything done and meet their deadlines.  They reassure themselves that there is plenty of time to get it all done, and therefore there is no need to start right now!

2.    Procrastinators believe that they work well under pressure, because the eleventh hour is the only time they do the important stuff.  What’s more, the results of this frantic gust of work-wind will always be acceptable somehow.

3.    Procrastinators have low belief in their own ability because they know that their work could be so much better if they spent a little more time on it, but they are too afraid to put it to the test in case they are wrong.

4.    Procrastinators are often too busy with lots of little things, like paper shuffling or making tea, checking e-mails… they distort these activities into important acts that have to get done before they can be in the right frame of mind for the real project.

Four Things Procrastinators tell themselves and others:

1.    The task is too difficult.
2.    The task is too time consuming.
3.    The task requires knowledge I don’t yet have and it will take time to learn it.
4.    Executing the task will show that I’m actually no good at it.  So I’ll do a half decent job with the excuse that I only spent a little time on it.

Seven Ways to turn procrastination into action:

“If you are so good at procrastination, why don’t you put it off for a while?” Unknown Author

1.    Be willing to change your current way of thinking.  Seneca says that “It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that things are difficult.”
2.    Discover the real reason why you put things off.  Listen to them. Dispute them vigorously and begin.
3.    If you think you work best under pressure, create a competition for yourself. Put yourself under play pressure and give yourself a reward if you succeed.  Invent whatever scenario you like to do so.  Be creative and trick your mind until a new habit is formed.  You can also create peer pressure by telling everyone that you’re going to get something done by tonight.
4.    Break a time consuming task into tiny chunks and do them in 90-minute slots.  Make sure they look small.  Set yourself a clear outcome for those 90 minutes.  This is the perfect time frame our brain can operate at maximum capacity. Set a timer and begin.  The timer will tell you how much time you have left to finish the task.  This will speed you up, give you energy and momentum.  (This is how I write all my articles!)
5.    If you are a procrastinating perfectionist and feel overwhelmed by the sheer thought of a project, make sure you always praise yourself for what you’ve done well instead of putting yourself down for what you yet have to do.
6.    To avoid the busy nothingness: Plan ahead for the next day the night before.   The unconscious mind then will want to get started with the most important thing first. This means no quick looks at e-mails, facebook or paperwork.
7.    Don’t underestimate the power of self-talk.  If you focus on the fact that you never have enough time, this will remain a self-fulfilling prophecy.  What can you tell yourself instead that will empower you to take focused action?

“Success is the progressive realisation of a worthy goal or ideal” Earl Nightingale.

One of the success principals of NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is the assumption that there is no failure, only feedback.  This is a great principal to adopt because if it was true, we could easily drop the fear of failure!

Ask yourself: what is it that I need to sacrifice in myself to be able to see a specific event as feedback?

“It is not what happens to you that determines how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you” Zig Ziglar

Have you been someone who in the past has procrastinated about certain tasks simply because of the fear of failure or the fear of not being good enough?  Guess what, our egos are very clever in protecting us from failure that very often, we don’t even become consciously aware of this protection mechanism.  All we notice is that there are simply many ‘good reasons’ why we are not able to start a certain project or perform a certain task: “Just another quick cup of tea”  - “Oh, and I really need to call my mother, I haven’t been in touch iwht her for ages” - “I’ll just quickly check my e-mails, because I really need to get back to people” - “I’m suddenly really tired” - Can you relate

“Procrastination is suicide on the installment plan.” Unknown Author

“The Optimist sees opportunity in every danger; the pessimist sees danger in every opportunity.” Winston Churchill

It’s all in the mind, so make a game of finding something positive in every situation.  Make a game of finding the positive learning in every apparent defeat, because, as Brian Tracy puts its it: “Ninety-five percent of your emotions are determined by how you interpret events to yourself.”

I invite you to eradicate the concept of failure nad replace it with the idea of feedback!